Who Are Soul Mates?

This ongoing long journey makes sense when looking at the ultimate big picture of multiple reincarnations leading to enlightenment. It even makes sense when looking at connections of souls between a past life and the present life. Not only does the existence of soul mates make sense, the cleaver manner in which the soul mate pops up in a lifetime at the right time for a lesson to be learned is more than amazing! And it is far more than "coincidence".

Numerous people in the metaphysical field have always talked about soul mates. There are countless explanations of who they are and their purpose. Most often the stories revolve around the myth that we humans are on the Earth plane looking for our one true soul mate who will provide us with all the love we crave -- or some variation of this. Most likely this is the most popular myth because it touches most people so deeply where they hurt the most.

I am not so romantic and take such a practical view because of my experience with real people recalling past lives. Repeatedly, people undergoing a past life regressions have reported that one or more significant people in the present life were with them in one or more past lives.

These traveling souls appear to come together periodically throughout the many life times, and not always in adjacent lifetimes. They may skip a few hundred years before coming together again. Their relationship to each other so they can interact to fulfill a promise or obligation in a past life appears to be crucial.

There is some evidence that one of the souls may skip coming into a lifetime in a physical body with the other soul mate, and instead stay in spirit form. It appears the spirit form soul mate acts as a "guide" or "spirit helper". These spirits never enterfer but do help when asked, -- but that is a whole other area I won't cover here.

From my personal experience in doing numerous past life regressions, the reason two souls are together again was due to one promise or commitment made during a powerful emotional experience in a past life. Here is one example:

A woman came for a regression because she said she had a guy living with her who she use to love. But now he was on drugs and stealing money from her. However, she could not force herself to kick him out of her home and life. She came to do the regression to see if there was some sort of a past life connection with the present situation.

After a little exploration in a past life where the two of them were lovers, she found herself at the side of his bed where he lie dying. In great grief she was praying and declaring to him these words: "Don't leave me! I will always take care of you!" In the regression we explored this powerful situation from many physical and spiritual levels. The purpose was to identify clearly what was meant and that this was another physical life time with different physical bodies. We also went through her death in that lifetime and sorted out what the lessons were. A little review of this present life helped sort out and separate past from present. Approximately a week after we did the regression she telephoned me and told me she kicked the bum out of her home and her life with no regrets.

It appears soul mates need not remain together for long periods in a lifetime in order to fulfill the intended purpose. The relationship is not always loving, either. In one case explored in a past life regression, a soul was born as a son to a soul mate mother in a past life. The son died approximately age 6 in that lifetime. The purpose of their relationship was for the son to help the mother learn about love and releasing her son without resentment at God.

There is a belief that souls get together in their spirit form before birth in a physical body and agree on how they will interact and for what purpose in their next lifetime. It appears that this planning is to help the souls on their karmic path toward enlightenment. The agreement may even be for one soul mate to kill the other. But this opens a huge area of discussion about karma and predestination, and that is beyond my purpose here.

To keep it simple, and within my own grasp of understanding, I will summarize what appears to be the case for soul mates:

• We are traveling through lifetimes with other souls, which we call "soul mates". They come in all forms besides loving partners. They can come into your life as alcoholics, abusers, gamblers, addicts, or cheaters.
• There are several reasons why your soul mate may come into a life time with you:
  • Out of love.
  • To pay a debt.
  • To receive payment of a debt.
  • To learn a lesson.
  • To right a wrong.
  • For the soul's growth.
  • To complete or finish something.
  • To help another soul.

• A soul may not be in every lifetime with a mate in a physical body. Either soul may skip following the mate, or may stay in spirit form while the mate lives a life in a physical body.

• We have numerous soul mates and they seldom are all together in the same lifetime, but sometimes are together in physical bodies all interacting with a purpose.

• All souls are working on their own karma and are working toward experiencing unconditional love in all experiences and therefore become enlightened.

• Not all soul mate relationships are harmonious nor long term.

• All life times in a physical body have a purpose to learn. Situations will repeatedly occur to teach the lesson until the lesson is learned. Then a new lesson begins.